Quidditch has been having lots of problems lately, groups fueling anger and general arguments popping up everywhere have began to take their toll on me. I’m tired of seeing people fight all the time. While I’m all for social activism, when it comes to the point where the other side feels so affronted by your approach, you need to rethink your strategy.
I am a feminist, and you can argue I’m not if you want, I know I am. However, I’m concerned, because no matter what we do, there’s never going to be a point where everyone agrees, and that makes me sad. We’re so forward, but we’re still under the thumb of the society we grew up in. To expect an instant change is really unrealistic, and the aggressive start ups and responses may even put us back.
I don’t think it’s fair to attack someone over the internet. Half the time, the attacker does not know the intended in real life. I’d be willing to bet my non-existent fortune that 50% of the people who verbally attacked Vanessa Goh don’t know her in real life. She’s a feminist, like me, but it doesn’t matter because she isn’t “extreme” enough. Her argument was OVERLOOKED because she had an “unpopular opinion.”
Well fuck it.
If you dive straight into attacking someone’s character from one post and never having spoken to them in real life, I hope you take a long look at what you’ve written and how you’ve treated someone.
I’m probably not the most liked person and I know for sure I’m not super respected, but I have opinions and I don’t think they should be dismissed just because you don’t agree with them.
This isn’t the fault of feminists, we have a lot to fight against and even more to fight for, but when it comes down to it, if you’re going to really stir the pot without an example, it’s going to be hard for us to reach people.
You don’t spank a puppy for pooping on the floor when there haven’t been any incidents recently. They’re not going to relate the two things, they’re just going to be hurt and it won’t end well.
Obviously I’m not a leading name on feminism or anything. I don’t have to prove my feminism because it doesn’t matter to me what you think of me as long as I feel comfortable with myself. If you just try to pick a fight with me, I’ll consider what you say, but I’m not entirely sure I’ll reply.
Also, guys. Listen up a little. I know it’s hard to grasp and you’ll feel like you’re being attacked, but maybe, just maybe, look past the anger and try to get a glimpse of what’s being said. From the responses, you know the triggers now: rape jokes, slut shaming, the works. Try to just be a little more sensitive. But I can’t control anyone, obviously, so if you feel that you’re still justified in your behaviour to really go ahead and make jokes others deem inappropriate, I’m not responsible for the verbal firing squad that comes down on your ass.
This is a little belated, since I’ve left ATR and have not come across too many feminist tangle ups, but I figured I’d air my woes anyway.
All I know is that I want to respect the quidditch community.
We are more than just squabbles, quidditch is a platform to move forward in society as a group, but this group is full of different people and different ideals. That’s what makes us so great.
Don’t be an asshole.
And on that note, please ignore typos and my blatant inability to express myself properly.